Kevin DeYoung is a great writer. He can get your attention just by writing a few lines – that’s what happened to me anyway. Several months ago while at a local bookstore I saw a copy of this book on display. Since I was struggling with the issue of being too busy, I thought it was a good book to check out. Surely Kevin would have some good advice. I mean, he only has five kids, pastors a church, writes books, and blogs almost daily. So during our winter break I made it through this “(mercifully) short book about a (really) big problem”. Here are my five favorite quotes, in no particular order.
“Am I trying to do good or look good?”
Opening our home to others is a wonderful gift and a neglected discipline in the church. But we easliy forget the whole point of hospitality. Think of it this way: Good hospital-ity is making your home a hospital. The idea is that friends and family and the wounded and weary people come to your home and leave helped and refreshed. And yet, too often hospitality is a nerve-wracking experience for hosts and guests alike. Instead of setting our guests at ease, we set them on edge by telling them how bad the food will be, and what a mess the house is, and how sorry we are for the kids’ behavior. We get worked up and crazy busy in all the wrong ways because we are more concerned about looking good than with doing good. So instead of encouraging those we host, they feel compelled to encourage us with constant reassurances that everything is just fine. Opening our homes takes time, but it doesn’t have to take over our lives. Christian hospitality has much more to do with good relationships than with good food. There is a fine line between care and cumber. In many instances, less ado would serve better.
Limit your Expectations:
No doubt some Christians need to be shaken out of their lethargy and to get busy for the kingdom. But many Christians are too busy already. I can take “redeem the time” (see Eph. 5:16, KVJ) as a summons to better time management when in reality it’s a call to be holy more than a call to possess the seven habits of highly effective people. I can turn every “is” into an “ought.” I can overlook the role that necessity and proximity plan in establishing divine obligations. I can forget that my circle of influence will inevitably smaller than my circle of concern.
Above all, I can lose sight of the good news that the universe is not upheld by the word of my power (see Heb. 1:3). That’s Christ’s work, and no one else can do it. Hallelujah-he doesn’t even expect me to try.
Prioritize and Execute:
It’s taken me a while to see this, but now I do. And I absolutely believe it: I can’t serve others effectively without setting priorities. If I respond to every e-mail, show up at every possible meeting, and have coffee with every person asking for “just a few minutes,” I won’t have time to adequately prepare for my sermon. I may help several people during the week, but I won’t faithfully serve the many more who come on Sunday. If I attend every possible church function, I won’t be there for my son’s basketball game. Stewarding my time is not about selfishly pursuing only the things I like to do. It’s about effectively serving others in the ways I’m best able to serve and in the ways I am most uniquely called to serve.
On Raising Children (I kept this one short):
We may not be able to shape our child’s future identity as much as we’d like, but we can profoundly shape their experience of childhood in the present.
On the topic of social media:
[addiction and acedia (read: apathy) lead] directly to the third threat of our digital world, and that’s the danger that we are never alone. When I say “never alone,” I’m not talking about Big Brother watching over us or the threat of security breaches. I’m talking about our desire to never be alone. Peter Kreeft is right: “We want to complexify our lives. We don’t have to, we want to. We want to be harried and hassled and busy. Unconsciously, we want the very things we complain about. For if we had leisure, we would look at ourselves and listen to our hearts and see the great gaping hole in our hearts and be terrified, because that hole is so big that nothing but God can fill it.”